Rollercoaster Goodbyes

I don’t think I had ever realized how exhausting it is to say goodbye.

I realized it last night when I collapsed into bed at 8:12pm after a full weekend of goodbye meetings and dinners and services.

It’s a strange space to be in as we linger between saying goodbyes knowing we aren’t going to see our loved ones on a regular basis anymore and then being excited for the chapter God has ahead of us for our little family of four. It’s tough and exciting all at the same time.

It can be an emotional rollercoaster for sure. And I am learning that an emotional rollercoaster (as with any normal rollercoaster) takes a toll on my physical body.

Please don’t get me wrong, we are absolutely loving our time with our friends and family. In fact, we are the ones asking and demanding and planning to see you all. Our times with you all have been nothing short of fruitful, nourishing, loving, and rich. But eventually we have to give that one final hug goodbye…rollercoaster, I tell ya.

I dropped into bed last night going how on earth am I going to survive this week of even more rollercoaster goodbyes?

And then a simple whisper…

“Come to me… and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28

So today we have been still visiting but in the comfort of our home, allowing ourselves to slow down and rest in the wonderful conversations and the in between downtime. Keep praying that we would not loose steam, that we would enjoy and be present for every interaction, and that we would find rest. 

These girls are super troopers. They have been dragged all over the place and have really been a blessing to us and so many others. Am so proud of my little girls.

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Getting rid of stuff

Kelvin and I are minimalists. We recently started watching that new documentary on Netflix about minimalism. I had heard rave reviews about it and thought it would change the way I view material things. It didn’t. It just showed me what I already know and how I already live.

When we moved back to Canada in 2013, we always had it in mind that this is a temporary move and eventually we will move back to Kenya. In 2015, we decided that we would leave beginning of 2017 so we decided to keep living in my parent’s furnished basement suite so we didn’t have to move out and find furniture only to get rid of it a year later. Too much hassle. So over the last four years, the only thing we have really accumulated is baby stuff. And we haven’t even acquired much of that. I never wanted my living room to be filled to the brim with all sorts of things for the kids to play with. We got most of our stuff given to us. And when we felt like we had too much and didn’t need more, we kindly asked people to stop giving us stuff and started giving away our own stuff.

We are now at the point of taking everything we own, for 4 people, and putting it into 6 or 7 suitcases.

It’s not as daunting as you may think. Mostly because we just don’t have that much stuff.

But deciding what to bring and what to give away is not always that easy. I am finding that the strangest things have some sentimental value to me. Like a particular outfit that the girls wore a lot that may not even be that pretty or an outfit that they never wore but someone special gave it to them. Stuffed animals are hard. I can look at almost all my girls’ stuffies and tell you who gave it to them. And that is super special to me even though my girls never play with them and they sit on the shelf.

So far the hardest thing for me to get rid was our 2000 Toyota Echo. It was a piece of junk. Literally. I sold it for $600 (which is $550 more than what it was worth). But it was my grandmother’s. And she was probably my most favourite person to be with. She gave it to me when I finished college and it has been a faithful car for not only me, but my brother and parents as well. I had so many good memories with that car that I had a little cry when the new owner drove it away.

This morning, Amina and I started tackling their clothes. Their room turned into a wild jungle of little girls’ clothes. I think we have it all under control now but if any of you have little baby girls, you are most welcome to come and sift through my 6 boxes of clothes and take whatever you need before I donate it all.

I want to say a big thank you as we have gotten all the suitcases we need!!!! We are currently in need of old computer bags and converters. If you have any that you are willing to part with, can you let me know?

Cheers to all our belongings fitting into a handful of suitcases!

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Investing In Someone Else’s Return

Starting and planning and running and fundraising for a non-profit has felt rather entrepreneurial. 

Kelvin and I aren’t the greatest of business people. We have tried. We have some decent business ideas and concepts and skills. But we end up giving away our jobs or tasks or duties to people who need some money. We then spend less and less time doing business because we have trained others to do it so they can make money. This makes more time for us to do what we love which is mentor, empower, train and love on awesome people. But, it means that we don’t tend to make money for ourselves very well.

We actually started a little business in Kenya and eventually involved our youth in it so they can learn some skills and make money. The business still runs today and provides a living for a few families. I think I would call that successful.

As we develop The Rehma Project, we have used some of the basic concepts in being an entrepreneur including seeing a need or market, creating a solution to meet that need or market, and finding funding to develop the idea.

Most of our time right now is spent in the finding funding stage as we seek people to invest. 

But this investment is different.

This is an investment into someone else’s return.

Most investors decide to invest in a project hoping that they will reap the tangible benefits. They know it’s not completely certain that they will, but they are willing to take that risk with the information they have.

But when you invest in The Rehma Project, you most likely won’t receive any earthly benefits. Someone else will.

And that’s a hard project to pitch.

However, we have been so amazed to see how many people are willing to make this sacrificial investment. Friends, you are so so generous. Your generous hearts humble us to no end.

We thank you.

If you would like to invest in someone else’s return, you can give here and designate the funds to Kelvin and Nikole The Rehma Project.

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